Reliance

The other day, a friend of mine posted a question on what would our dream job be.  I responded with "I'd like to get a degree in relationship and sex therapy as a Psychologist. But my dream job would be as a housewife for a career driven woman, letting me keep my writing as a hobby without the performance stress of needing it for income."

I was a little miffed when she didn't like it or respond.  She was so encouraging to everyone else.  Then I found out the reason.  On another post she shared how several men had shared wanting to "keep house" as an excuse to play video games all day...  I can see the appeal, plush apartment, huge screen TV, 360 or PS3, and inevitable boredom that will lead hearts to stray.

I'm writing this because that's really not what I meant.  I'm not writing for her benefit, but for my own.  I mean if she offered to bed me, I wouldn't tell her no, provided that I wasn't in a relationship first.  This is my vision.

Not a plush apartment in the city.  A small house just outside the city.  Short driving distance to the city, a huge one, but with lots of acreage.  A small garden plot for herbs and vegetables, and a few fruit trees.  Dogs, cats, a few sheep to keep the grass trim, also for meat and wool.  Hunting, not so much fishing.  Tanning hides.  Sure the big screen and the game consoles, but not to fill my day.

My real job though begins when She gets home.  Not my friend who posted, but the general idea of the woman I would end up with in this scenario.  I'll spare you those details, namely because it all depends on who she is and what she wants from me on any given day.

The picture I'm painting is something my sister and I have been talking about for some time.  We call it Self-Reliance.  A partial unplug from the System that keeps us all enslaved to our jobs.  In the modern world we can't disconnect completely.  Property taxes and the like.  But we can have a richer existence for less money if we just take the time to do some things ourselves.  Especially the necessities.

Then there's the fact that I want to raise a family.  I don't want the woman I'm with to put her life on hold while we have a child or two.  I realize that it would be her body, and she would have to put things on hold for at least a few months during the pregnancies, if we decided to go that route.  In the end though, I'd prefer to take care of the children myself and let her pursue her career goals with minimal interference.

I don't want to sponge off a woman for my own leisure.  I want to be the support she can rely on in the background so she can have her dreams.  That will probably mean having a job of my own, and I accept that.  But my friend asked what my dream job would be, not what I was willing to do.  I guess a better answer would be to have a woman I could devote myself to and a place full of projects to make her life better and easier behind the scenes... and with what time I can muster to work on my own writing.