The Art of Sex

In my prior post, I laid out my experiences with sex.  I felt that perhaps my views on the subject would be clearer if I shared my background.  As  you can tell, in someways I started very early, but in the ways that usually count in our society, I've not progressed very far.  Even so, my experiences and relationships (friendships mostly) with women have led me to some definite ideas as to what sex is about, can be about, and should be about.

I begin with the question of what is sex?  I remember during most of my life being told that sex makes babies.  I know that is actually true, but I read recently that given completely natural circumstances, only 12% of heterosexual sex will actually come to full term as a baby.  That is assuming, of course, that there is actually a deposit of semen within the vaginal canal.  Further, human women don't have heat cycles and can have sex any time they choose, even after their child bearing years have passed.  More, humans are inventive, and as such we have developed many different sexual activities that wouldn't necessarily introduce semen into the vagina at all.  Finally, we look at the existence of homosexuals, who engage in sexual behavior that could not possibly produce children

So, sex clearly isn't just about reproduction.  If not, why do we have it?  As if the question really needed to be asked.  Obviously, sex is pleasurable.  We enjoy it.  Sex stimulates our senses, our minds, and our emotions.  Sex is an art.  It can be beautiful, it can be vulgar, it can be expanding, it can be intimate.

Art begins with an internal experience, an individual perspective.  The artist then expresses that experience, that thought and idea with their chosen medium.  Through that medium, the artist touches another person and perhaps inspires them to do the same.

In sex, the experience is arousal, desire, love, or simply lust.  Emotion gives way to the mental, and then to the physical.  The medium is the other person, or people, involved.  The contact, one to another, is direct because our bodies are the medium.  And they are our tools.  Certainly, there are other implements that can be used, for smaller detail, or broader strokes.

Yes, there is a science behind sex.  And those who wish to be great artists must know and understand that science well.  The details are important, and the science helps us understand those details.  Sculptors must understand stone, painters paint and canvas, builders architecture, and sexual artists must understand the body. It is not to say that everyone has to be so dedicated to enjoy sex, simply that one reinforces the other.  Art and science, science and art.  Science leads to deeper understanding, art to deeper appreciation.

I consider myself an artist because I write.  But I also consider myself a student of the art of sex.  I am simply looking for someone who an appreciate my natural talent and my acquired knowledge.  Someone who can help me hone both into skill.